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Saudi/Brit in search of herself.

Monday, 14 July 2008

Arranged Marriage also known as the ''M'' word"- Take the one who loves you, not the one you love?!

I rememeber when Taqo* blogged about this ages back...the whole ordeal of, "get changed there's a mother waiting to see you downstairs for her son". LOL
Foof* is not a stranger to the whole "M" scene either :D

Especially once you hit 21 and from then on. I remember when Khanette* dreaded turning that age for that fact. I've come to realize us girls are seriously complicated beings and I kind of feel sorry for men. Back in Jan'o7 she and I made this doomed for failure resolution that we'd find '"the one" that year and marry him right after grad! It sounds so hilarious right now...

McHottie* and I at that time used to spend countless hours discussing how do you know when the guy is serious or not!? And she found the Golden Rules in how men marry b*tches...haha. I guess trying to fathom life's mysteries is what us girls do best.

I like giving the "I'll think about it" answer to hopeful parents, showing atleast you're taking it into consideration and not just blowing them off which is the real truth. That was the case a couple of months back as I admit I am quite passive to a certain extent with these things.
I love Ash*'s response to this:

Ash - Woman! what are you doing??

Me - I was just trying to....be nice?!

Ash- Next time I'll hear from you, 'Ash I'm engaged I didnt want to but I was just trying to be nice'! :-0

Me- hahahahahaha

Ash - Run for the hills!

Ah, gotta love her....she's like the teabag from the tea I'm drinking (again, yes I drink tea I'm English lool) she's strong especially when in hot water. I admire that. My diamond in the rough heheh. Unlike most of us whom strike a confident pose but take every word said to them with great aggressiveness shielding their shortcomings with their loud personalities ahem..Bored*.

Khanette* takes it all in stride she focuses on the rational part of life - claiming that a heart doesnt pound faster just because of love its just an organ!! hahaha and "I'm going on vacation, and if I come back engaged then I come back engaged." LOL love it!' I hope to always see inshallah that twinkle in her eye as she gives her cheeky smile. I wonder is if she's still reading the Arranged Marriages book heheh.

Unfortunately our men in this society are too hung over letting their parents choose their life partner. He rarely chooses to marry his girlfriend lol.No matter the age, most are stamped out of the same mold: passive and weak. They are slaves to reactionary customs and traditions even if their enlightened minds pretend to reject such things! Thats the mold for all men in this society. They're just pawns their families move around the chessboard.
It worries him to even think about following a path so different from the path his father followed so he follows their steps and doesn't go against their way of doing things. They're too scared to pay for their own decisions in life. They want others to follow and others to blame if things fail....with the exception of few.

Doolti* is also knocking on marriage's door.....or maybe pounding. She reminds me to get moving LOL...as we dont "need 5 yr old actions" of some men haha. I always tell her never settle for anything coz she's deserves the best inshallah.

Ah the life of a hopeless romantic as myself is such a cloudy one hahaa.


Sweet Anger said...

You know you could just write a post called "How many ways Ash ROCKS!!" hehehehe

anyways... its true you have this ability of being sooooooooo freakin' nice which is all well and good but not when its gonna make you miserable now/later... So when mama's little boy goes "but mama i want the girl with the green eyes" and you go "i was just being nice" i try my best to count to 10 before i think abt strangling u, i say with love of course...

so back to me being awsome (i know i know my new word) you said i'm ur diamond in the rough aaaawwwww remind me to kiss u when i see u... speaking of which so what craziness do u have planned for me i expect nothing less then kinky

btw i love how u used me as ur personal battering ram *wink wink nudge nudge* :| ahem but u knw me, i like being used ;) mwahahaha

MWAH love yous

Bassem said...

As I always say, I find this way of marriage rather funny and extremely crude in its essence.

It's like the mother is someone who's out in the market to find the best sheep for her son and she's waiting to check on your skin, teeth, legs and make sure you're a good "sheep" for her precious one-of-a-kind-anyone-would-be-lucky-to-marry-him son

21 is still not old enough to get married in my own personal opinion but here they doom them as damaged goods once they pass the magical number of 25.. which is the perfect age for marriage if you ask me

My mother will not even my pick a wife for me even if I begged her to do so :P She wants me to do the mistake myself so I don't blame her later :P j/k

I can't marry someone I don't know before hand... because even that doesn't guarantee you'll make a good couple

allah ketob elly feh al5air leljame3

m-a-n-x said...

ahhh bassem I completely agree!
its great to hear a guy's view on that - thanx!

lol @ the "magic number" but yeah 25 seems best heh but I probably have to give in like everyone else to the whole arranged marriage headache eventually *sigh* lol.

Anonymous said...

Nothing worse than having mom do my "pimping" for me...

Kiora said...

Keep up the good work.

Lalloosha said...

lol @ mom doing the pimping hahaha....i say get engaged by 23...24....married by 25:D it is a magical number hehehee.....

manx....shall we go on a man hunt??

Lalloosha said...

lol @ mom doing the pimping hahaha....i say get engaged by 23...24....married by 25:D it is a magical number hehehee.....

manx....shall we go on a man hunt??

m-a-n-x said...

I just re-read this post and my eyes fell on this comment of yours hadool.....it will be a year old tomorrow...now that's creepy. You say get married by 25. Done haha :D

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